Establishing Concrete, Attainable Goals for Myself

In ChasingHappiness May Leave You Unhappier than Ever by Amy Morin at PsychologyToday, I read an insightful piece of truth that I knew I needed to implement. What it said is that while acts of kindness does have some impact in terms of making people - the giver and receiver - happier, what actually would make people happier is establishing concrete, attainable goals aimed at helping other people. It's counter-intuitive. We normally think that having a broad general goal of helping others would make us happy, but having concrete, attainable goals allows us to have realistic expectations of how we would be able to impact other people. It decreases the expectation-reality gap.

What would I do if I knew I could not fail? The answer is several folds. One, I would live a life full of adventure. I would be climbing mountains, and challenging myself in nature through adventure sports and activities. But that can't be it. There is something even more to my life than just that. I really want to be a person who will be remembered for making positive, memorable differences in the lives of others. For one, I want to be a travel nurse. I want to travel nation-wide and internationally and see where that takes me. Then the idea of being a flight nurse has always intrigued me since the inception of that idea was implanted in my mind during my Junior year of nursing school. In addition, I want to learn all about spirituality, as I believe it is the essence of all life and matter in the universe. I want to learn and teach others about how science and spirituality are merging together. I want to learn about the powers that our ancient, indigenous world cultures have always said. I want to learn the different powerful healing techniques, abilities, and modalities to help better the lives of others. I want to teach others these healing modalities, and the different, powerful possibilities that can exist with embracing the true nature of spirituality. I want to be a role model for others of practicing compassion, unconditional love, and show others how great we can all be.

That's what I really want to do with my life. I think that would be a life well-lived for me. However that description of the dream for me is huge. It's like asking oneself, if I want to climb Mount Everest within the next year, how would I do it? I guess the answer is to take the dream one step at a time.

I know in my heart that focusing on one goal at a time is most realistic and practical. But I want to do all of this right now. I'm trying to go skiing every week. I want to get into rock climbing but don't know how. I've taken a couple steps to get clients for QHHT but so far nothing yet. On days off from work, I still often times feel like I'm not using my time very well. Sometimes I doubt how bad I want it because if I want it so bad, why aren't I making things happen? Sometimes I feel like I'm all talk, and no walk. It's a struggle. I'm afraid of putting myself out there and letting other people know what I'm trying to do, that I believe in QHHT and its potentials. Would I even be able to defend myself adequately if other people questioned me on my beliefs? At some point I have to try even harder to make things happen instead of just hoping that the universe will give me opportunities.

I need to establish clear, measurable, and attainable goals for myself.

Goal for Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique:

To conduct my first session of Quantum Healing Hypnosis here in Casper, Wy within one month from today (Deadline: April 4th, 2015)

To do this, I need to get used to talking about things I'm not currently comfortable talking about. Spreading what I'm looking to do via word of mouth is the best method. I believe I've already posted a flyer at the community library, so people who happen to pass by have the opportunity to read and contact me if intrigued. The next step is to spread via word of mouth. I'm not used to doing this at all. I'm not at all used to talking about my beliefs and asking questions to people about that. I need to get used to talking about and asking people things that I'm not comfortable talking about right now. This self-improvement is probably the biggest thing I can do right now to grow personally as well as find clients and volunteers for QHHT. Anytime I feel some tension or discomfort, I will need to learn to deal with it and talk about it, and not to let fear overcome and paralyze me. 

Sub-goal/Things I Need to do Next:

- I need to be able to talk about what QHHT is, why I believe in it, the science of spirituality

-Anytime I feel some tension or discomfort, I will need to learn to deal with it and talk about it, not to let fear overcome me

-text people if interested in QHHT

-invite people over to teach them about science and spirituality

-ask people about interest in having QHHT session after bringing it up in conversation

- pass out QHHT cards to those interested

Links:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201503/chasing-happiness-may-leave-you-unhappier-ever

http://faculty-gsb.stanford.edu/aaker/documents/GettingMostOutGiving.pdf

Kobe Bryant's Muse: My Reaction to An Inspiring Look Into The Man, The Legend, The Human

Kobe Bryant's Muse

I just finished watching Kobe Bryant's new documentary. This man is such an inspiration. His vulnerability on camera exposing his inner thoughts and feelings through his journey in life almost made me tear up. I love this man's tenacity, his hunger, his drive. And after watching it lying in bed, I feel compelled to get my thoughts out. You know, this is the second time my brother has not been here in my apartment. Earlier I was feeling abandoned to be perfectly honest. I was feeling like he had left me for this girl. I know it's probably common place for people my age to be in relationships honestly but I am different. There’s a part of me that yearns to be different from others. And after watching Muse and getting insight on Kobe's life, I feel like I can use these times alone in an efficient manner. My main concern is using my time wisely, effectively, efficiently. I cant stand myself wasting my time away, especially when I feel like I'm not having a relationship myself. I feel like if I'm missing out on something that's supposed to be what I'm doing in my early 20's, I need to make this time I spend by myself, WORTH IT. It MUST PAY OFF. I literally get a feeling of depression in me when I'm doing something that will yield me absolutely nothing in return. This feeling is heightened especially during the last two times my brother went to go stay at this girl's house. About that, there's a part of me that is worried that we may be heading down separate paths. I don't want that. I hope that we share the same life path. But decisions you make everyday are directly impacting your life tomorrow and in the future. I have taken up this dream that Erin Pavlina has told me about. The dream of being part of something that is so much bigger than myself. I burn for that. Really. I burn for that just like Kobe burned for recognition of being the greatest basketball player. He still is burning for that. That's the thing I believe I do have in common with Kobe. I believe I am special. I believe I am here on this Earth to do GREAT things. But right now I feel lost at times, wondering what I should be doing with my time, why opportunities are not coming my way. But that's the beauty of watching these biographical documentaries. Kobe was not getting opportunities early on in his career either, but that certainly wasnt the end of him. I have to believe the same for me. I yearn to be part of something so much greater than myself. I want to burn, to sacrifice, to toil, sweat, bleed for something as well. Kobe bleeds for basketball. What is my basketball? My basketball is the prophecy Erin informed me about, the journey that I'm after. But I want that feeling NOW. I fear this momentary motivation I'm spewing here is just that, momentary.

I can see myself in Kobe's place. Sitting in front of that camera, imparting the wisdom and knowledge that I've come to gain. In time perhaps. I do feel like I may have too many goals and targets if you will. Sigh. I want to be special. I want to be recognized for something much greater than myself. I want to inspire others with my perseverance and dedication. I want a life that's WORTH the pain, the lonely hours, worth the sleepless moments, the suffering. I want IT.

Is Life Supposed to be this Dull?

I'm not doing enough with my life, even as I try to get my life going.

I watched the documentary, "Decoding Deepak" yesterday. There was a quote that struck me that I knew I had to write down the moment I heard it. It goes:

"The truth that, my dad may have been able to mesmerize millions, but his teachings could not save some of those closest to us. Eventually, there comes a point we have to ask of, “How much of what we discover, what we teach, what we reflect on and document through the years – How much of it makes a difference?”

Quote of the Day

"Harder still it has proved to rule the dragon Money… A whole generation adopted false principles, and went to their graves in the belief they were enriching the country they were impoverishing."

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

From Tom Shadyac's brilliant documentary, "I Am"

"I Am" a Brilliant Masterpiece by Tom Shadyac Regarding The Shift in Consciousness

I cannot express my praise adequately for Tom Shadyac, for the work that he's done throughout his own personal journey to become an individual with the core values of empathy, compassion, and unconditional love, as well as the effort in making his documentary, “I Am”. Tom's documentary has thrown more fuel onto the fire of desire to make a greater difference for others. It's a documentary about the bevy of problems our societies face, it's about why we have the problems that we do, it's about how science may actually be merging with the teachings of spiritual teachers, and most importantly, it strikes a heart-felt message that we all make a difference in each other, regardless if we are open to understanding the message and power of kindness, compassion, and unconditional love.  

Watch "I Am" here:

Listen to the similarities Gregg Braden talks about here:

Documentation of Goals: To Be Updated Today (February 10th, 2015)

Current Goal:

I only have one real goal now. It is to develop myself into a compassionate, loving person and to help others and make differences in positive, memorable, and inspiring ways. First and foremost, to work and develop myself to being a kind, compassionate, and loving human being. This means doing what I read in The Art of Happiness with the Dalai Lama: To cultivate genuine happiness by deliberately selecting and focusing on positive mental states and challenging and replacing negative mental states (Work on cultivating spiritual emotions such as compassion, kindness, altruism, gratitude and replace negative emotions including anger, jealousy, fear, etc). By developing myself into a compassionate, loving person I will make a simple, yet huge difference in the lives of people I meet everyday. People will remember how they were treated, above all else. And then from whatever work I end up doing, I want it to make a memorable and positive difference in others' lives.

Ways in Which I Want to Make a Difference in:

-          Being a compassionate nurse

-          Being a Dolores Cannon QHHT practitioner, CORe (Cellular and Organ Regeneration), Erin Pavlina's Intuitive Abilities & Astral Projection class, Julia Cannon's Reconnective Healing/Lightcasting, Other healing modalities  http://www.newearthjourney.com/ 

-          Use Brian Kim’s entrepreneurship subscription ideas to help contribute

-          To develop myself into a compassionate, loving person and affect people’s happiness in small, yet powerful ways

-          To educate myself daily by reading and exploring one focused topic/area per month, that opens and broadens my perspective and makes the world a better place

a.       Become a Vegan to help the environment, promote better health, and take a stand against animal cruelty 

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6. To live a minimalist's lifestyle with focus purely on personal growth (self-improvement, playing, having new experiences); contribution/helping others/making a positive, memorable difference in the lives of others; and close, meaningful relationships, the three things that result in true happiness.

<-- In regards to this goal which I have listed before, I believe that by becoming a compassionate, loving person, I will certainly improve myself. It certainly will make a positive difference on others, and I don't see why or how it won't result in having close relationships with other people. Those three are really all a given by becoming a good-hearted person who is looking to help others. Playing is only truly fun with others in the long run, and having new experiences like travelling and going on adventures, will come with time as long as you make it a top priority. These are the things I want to really focus on in life. Really being able to live a lifestyle developing these aspects is my dream.


What my past goals have looked like and how they have altered:
http://ml-thewayiam.blogspot.com/2013/04/my-many-goals-now-and-in-near-future.html
http://ml-thewayiam.blogspot.com/2013/11/documentation-of-goals.html
http://ml-thewayiam.blogspot.com/2014/04/documentation-of-goals-to-see-how-they.html


The Things That Interest Me

After Analysis of How My Time is Spent - Note to Self

Things to accomplish each week (3 Pillars):

Personal Growth- self improvement, playing, having new experiences

1. skiing
2. climbing
3. spreading unconditional love to others through small, positive interactions
4. reading and learning new interesting things
5. working out

Contribution & making a positive, memorable difference in the lives of others:

1. nursing
2. casper humane society
3. CWRM
4. QHHT

Don't feel the need to schedule out every part of your time and life. Its best and most practical to have a general list and idea of what you want to focus on and when you have time off, focus on the one on the list that speaks most to you at that time. Your emotions will guide you. Trust in your guides, focus on visualizing the results that you want which will give you that burning desire, and take the next most appropriate step. Conclusion: know generally waht you want to focus on, cultivate a burning desire for it, take the next most obvious step, when you are not working.