In
the fall of 2011, my close friend and I happened to wander into a conversation
that I never talked about, nor ever thought about. It was about marriage. My
friend gave me his opinions of marriage and I listened closely and asked
thoughtful questions. He adamantly and assertively stated his views on the
downsides of marriage, all of which I had never contemplated about. It was
clear that he had ruminated about his point of view thoroughly. Intrigued by
this controversial topic that would have eventually run down my alley, I
decided to do more research. There is no one reason as to why marriage exists.
Some will say it is to promote a stable, life-long, monogamous relationship
between two people who can provide protections for each other and raise
children. Sounds reasonable, should all these criteria be met. Depending what
source you choose to ascertain, marriages starting out today are at great risk
for divorce or marital distress. Some people point that divorce rates are 50%
in this country whereas others will point out that statistics can be
manipulated to support one’s argument and that statistics can never be the sole
argument. In fact according to Tara Parker-Pope, author of “For Better: The
Science of a Good Marriage”, the grim statistic of 50% of marriages ending in
divorce doesn’t apply to most couples getting married today or for even those
who married in the last few decades. It does seem however, that more people are
at least choosing to be single for an extended period of time and it has
accounted for the overall decrease in divorce rate in comparison to the 1970’s.
Some studies show that the risk for divorce drops significantly when couples
decide to tie the knot after the age of 25 (Gibson). In comparison to the
couples that married in the 1970’s, couples generally were in “in their late
teens and early twenties” (Parker-Pope) and that “statistics show that the
30-year divorce rate among these couples ‘is about 47%” (Parker-Pope).
Aside
from whatever the real statistics may be, I am here to make a case for men to
not engage in marriage, and it’s a result of the huge financial risks involved,
the unremitting family courts, the partial laws that are in place that target
men over women, and ultimately do not treat men with equal rights. In a
relatively pessimistic yet honest perspective of marriage from perhaps many
men’s rights activists, is the idea that marriage exists as a social convention
to take advantage of an important biological quirk of manhood. It’s the deep
sexual attraction and infatuation with a particular female. The primal instinct
to possess this object of affection occurs naturally for both sexes. The
problem begins here though. Women do not stay in the same attractive state as
they were when men first fall for them. It’s not a nice fact of life, but it’s
the truth nonetheless. A woman’s sex appeal is considerably based on her
femininity and having a certain physical physique, and of course I understand
that there are men that like women of all shapes and sizes, but the general
desire of men of a woman’s physique is to slim; well proportioned; sexy face,
hair, and body; and the likes. The difference is for men, as they age, gain
more characteristics and traits that are appealing to women, assuming he has
developed status, become successful, is confident with himself, and is a leader
of men. Looks are not as vital for men as they age and men can get away with
being overweight or losing hair, as long as they make up for it in the ways
mentioned above.
So
the problem is the fact that after the biochemical reaction in the brain that
people experience and call love, infatuation, or the honeymoon phase, has
halted, the relationship loses its lust, passion, and steam that was present in
its inception, but now they remain legally bound with serious ramifications.
Ramifications especially for men! The state binds men into a state of
obligations subject to serious financial penalties should things not work out.
Alimony, it’s one of the most unfair punitive actions targeted against men when
divorces occur. And it’s not debatable that the vast majority of divorces are
initiated by women! Two-thirds are initiated by women. Women have their reasons
for initiating divorce, reasons that very well may be legitimate complaints in
a relationship. The most common reason women initiated divorce according to
Cathy Meyer in her article titled, “Why Most Divorces Are Initiated By Women”
is due to “verbal abuse and emotional neglect”. I am not going to debate
whether women who initiate divorces have the moral grounds to do so because
each situation is different. I do advocate what TV psychologist Dr. Phil
assertively believes in, which is that people need to do everything they can to
save the marriage before calling it quits. I believe this should be true
regardless if children are involved. The reason for this is simple, even if
kids are not in the picture, when a man decides to get married, he is taking a
serious and significant investment with his financial status and financial
future. Then what about prenuptial agreements? Well first of all, women may
feel uncomfortable and turned off with the idea of a pre-nuptial agreement
because they feel it is unromantic. Perhaps women feel that men who ask for
them are thinking that their relationship won’t last, while men tend to believe
that this woman has just revealed her true cards. Regardless if it is or isn’t
romantic, it is a very real and dangerous risk men take, if they do not get
one. To make matters more disconcerting for men in this position, pre-nuptial
agreements do not always get held up in the family courts. As wonderful as a
relationship is right now, do men really want to take that chance? Men who think
that divorce won’t ever happen to them are deluding themselves, just like how
people suppress the thought of developing cancer. Surely the vast majority of
couples who get married don’t think they WILL get divorced, but the fact is, a
certain percentage of them do.
Attitudes
toward Pre-nuptial agreements reveal an unfair double bind for men. If a man
insists on getting a Pre-Nup, he is selfish and unromantic. However if a woman
demands a Pre-Nup, she is seen as being fiscally responsible, sensible, and looking
out for herself. Why can women can obtain Pre-Nups and be accepted by society
while men cannot? According to Kate Bolick, author of “All the Single Ladies”,
women are becoming self-sufficient. They work, can pay for themselves. Why
should men be financially responsible for women? Tradition says yes because men
are the breadwinners. Well, women are independent now. To be independent means
you don’t take money from other people. You are self sufficient to earn and
raise yourself. So why shouldn’t men obtain protection for themselves so they
do not lose half their assets, half of everything they will earn in the future,
along with the very real possibility of having to support her in the future
should the relationship not work? Women who are adamant that their man not get
a Pre-Nup are not really after love. Men should be outraged that women who
demand men to leave out pre-nups, are after a legal contract, and not love and
commitment. Women want to talk about romantic? How unromantic is it to know the
trap the legal system has set up for men? Bridal magazines, floral
arrangements, wedding dresses, receptions, and wedding showers want to cloud
the fact of what men are really getting themselves into. Marriage is as much an
unromantic legal contract as a prenuptial agreement is!
It
may surprise people to learn that pre-nups were intended to protect women.
That’s right, pre-nuptial agreements were developed to protect the heiresses from
men who were digging for their gold. Before the Married Women’s Property Act of
1848, a married woman’s property immediately became the property of the
husband’s (Lewis). Like women back in the day, men nowadays want to and need to
protect their finances. Or perhaps women were not focused on being romantic
back in the day. No Disney movies to feed their young minds with fantasies.
It
is accurate to say that women consider their fiancé’s salary before deciding to
jump into marriage. A woman who says that her potential mate’s income range was
and is never considered, is lying or is an infinitesimal exception. Perhaps
some women want to live up to that fantasy of having a wedding day fairy tale
experience to hold up to the eyes of other people in their lives where there
may be “friendly female competition”, thereby, suppressing these thoughts of
dollar bills and expenses. Underlying whatever marriage means to you, money and
assets is at the core of what marriage is about. It’s not completely and solely
about commitment. For those that question the veracity of this statement, it’s
probably safe to say that you don’t know much about what happens in divorce.
Divorce and legal attorneys are all about reducing the holy matrimony into
assets, liabilities, child support and custody if children are involved,
alimony, and spousal support (Required in California if 10 years or more of
marriage). And guess which sex is the main payer of all these things in the
vast majority of the cases. Men are. So when I hear people tell me marriage is
all about commitment, it is not truthful. People can be not married and be in
committed relationships. Why do you need a piece of paper that tells you that
you are in a committed relationship? You don’t! An example of this is called
cohabitation! Although when it comes to cohabitation, men have to be careful
here to! Cohabitating relationships often dissolve fairly simply but it isn’t
always the case as seen in the case of the actor, Lee Marvin and his cohabiting
partner Michelle Triola Marvin. “Although it may appear that tough guy Lee
Marvin got off free as a bird in this case, his freedom came at a significant
cost-over five years of litigation and significant expenditures of time, money,
and emotional energy” (FindLaw).
The
division of assets upon divorce is unfair to men as well. All assets
accumulated during the marriage are subject to division. Even in cases where
the woman has not worked in years, and has spent god-knows how many hours
spending money, she is entitled to half or more of everything the man worked
for during the marriage. Would you sign up for a job that contracted you to
return at least 50% of everything you made and owned should a final event of
separation occur? I do not feel like even dictating the question with the
answer, but yet I’ve typed up more letters here in this sentence than that two
lettered response. It’s unfair to know that if even the tiniest amount spent
from a bank account that is opened prior to marriage is used towards the
marriage, that account is considered marital property. It’s angering to know
the fact that once a woman moves into the home of the man, which he owned prior
to tying the knot, his home is now classified as joint marital property. If she
so much paints a wall or installs a light fixture, that house is subject to
equal division. What’s blood boiling to know is that men can be ejected from
their home if the wife conjures a specious narrative of physical abuse, verbal
abuse, child abuse, or of domestic violence. Feminists want to talk about true
equality? This is exactly the type of the second class treatment hardcore
feminists claim women were getting when they couldn’t vote, couldn’t own
property, and couldn’t have the same employment opportunities. If hardcore
feminists were truly solely out for the equality of women and not out to turn
the tables and to oppress men, they would understand that this type of
mistreatment is exactly the type of inequality they themselves were fighting to
get out of and would not let this travesty continue. Yet, it does.
Perhaps
one of the worst sins of divorce that some men are subjected to is when
children are used as pawns and weapons to hurt men and for women to seek
revenge. One of the Men’s Rights Movement goals is the have default 50/50
custody of children after a divorce. The MRM feels that neither the wife nor
the husband should be able to have leverage over who gets the kids unless there
is real misconduct or abuse conducted by a parent. In the case where abuse is
actually occurring, of course the answer is clear, but anger, resentment, and
lies should not be deciding factors of who gets to be the parent to the
children. In our society as of current, women are almost always automatically,
overwhelmingly favored to get custody of children after divorce. “According to
some estimates, only about 10 percent to 15 percent of divorced or single
fathers have sole custody of their children. The remaining fathers have either
joint custody or no custody of their children” (attorneys.com). Courts today
use a method known as “in the best interests of the child” to determine which
parent is more appropriately suited to care for the child. One of the factors
to determine this is the parent’s bond with the child. Usually, the younger the
child, the closer the bond is with the mother than that with the father. Another
factor that determines who should have primary custody is the primary caregiver
factor. The parent who takes care of the child’s daily needs such as feeding,
bathing, playing, and so on is the one who is seen as the primary caregiver and
the courts favor. The problem with this is that this method is not an analysis
of the characteristics and personality of the father but the following of a
stereotypical parenting role. And assuming the wife works, she is taking in
salary of her own, along with alimony, mandatory child support, and perhaps
even spousal support, she will be busy working as well and will not have all
day to care for the child. So an argument predicated on the father should not
take custody because he will be too busy working is not a fair argument either.
Men work hard to raise for their children and to be denied custody because of
the caregiver factor and parent-child bond factor, which automatically favor
the wives in most cases, in damaging and targets men.
In
bitter cases of divorce, sole custody awarded to women can literally cut off
all badly-needed connection children need with their father. When these
exploited children begin to quite naturally act out and get in trouble, society
blames the father who is removed against his will, for all things, being
absent. And for women who choose to lay blame on fathers that are deadbeats,
complaining about a lack of child support, it is in fact, largely the woman’s
fault that she must come to accept. Women’s blood pressure may have just spiked
when reading this but I’ll tell you why this is true. In our day and age, it is
women who choose who they sleep with. It is women who choose what type of men
they want to date and have sex with. Men cannot go around impregnating women
through rape and get away with it. Please do not take level of directness I
state here as an indication that I am trying to trivialize the damage rapists
cause. However, it is a woman’s choice whether she wants to take birth control
pills. It is the woman’s choice whether or not to have protection or have an
abortion. Women have 12 different forms of birth control available, there is
also morning after-pill or RU486. If abortion is not an option for her due any
reason, she can still leave the child up for adoption or abandon it legally-
this gets me to my next point in a bit. Men don’t get a final say on this. If a
woman wants to have the baby, she is going to have it. One of the most
illogical things though? It’s the women who complain about deadbeat men. Women choose
to sleep with assholes that mistreat them, yet, when they get pregnant, all of
a sudden these women expect the deadbeats to become responsible. I’m sorry, but
that does not make sense one bit. Men should be responsible as well. Men who
know they don’t want kids should take precautions with use of condoms. Granted,
they are not 100% child proof but under these described circumstances, to have
sex without protection is completely irresponsible.
This
gets me to the next point of divorce that is unfavorable to men specifically
and it coincides with the MRM’s 50/50 custody proposal. It is the idea of
abolishing forced child support for men. “If both parents have the kids for an
equal amount of time then each parent can support them when it is their time to
have custody. People, mostly men, are sent to prison because they cannot afford
to pay child support and a lot of the time the “child” support isn’t even being
spent on the child. In reality, it is just another form of alimony. Neither
should exist. However, since ending child support probably won’t happen before
we colonize mars there is a simple suggestion MRAs have put on the table”
(White). As stated before, when people are irresponsible sexually and do not
take precautions, unwanted pregnancies occur. Women surprisingly have the
option of leaving infants up for adoption or legally abandon it. Whereas men
have two options: give the mother money or go to jail. Does that seem fair to
people of reason, who can see past the tense feelings of comparison between men
and women’s flaws and faults? Responsibility gone out the window for women in
this case, yet if a man is not financially and emotionally ready to be a parent,
it’s just too darn bad. Now hardcore feminists will be completely intolerant to
this idea because according to them, giving men the choice to opt out of
financial and emotional responsibilities to the child is selfish and
irresponsible, but a woman doing the same thing with abortion, putting the
child up for adoption, or legally abandoning it remains the most holy of
freedoms. Men should be offered similar options to abdicate the
responsibilities of childcare before the baby is born and before the baby is
considered a child.
You
may wonder how the media’s depiction of men will impact the dynamics of
marriage for men. How does a comedy sitcom influence your marriage? Well first
of all, men are portrayed as bumbling, overweight, sex-crazed, burping,
farting, averaged-intelligence- at best in most cases- individuals who mess up
and do wrong. What these sitcoms impart to young boys is the message that men
are seen as pigs, animals, impulsive, idiotic, irresponsible, and to sum it up
in one word, flawed. Well one could say women are held to ridiculously high
standards of beauty in the media. But let’s look at the women who are portrayed
in these television sitcoms. These women are beautiful, attractive, thoughtful,
nurturing, sensitive, do no wrong, correct men when men act irrationally and
more or less not at all described with any pejorative descriptions. What other
words are used to describe men stereotypically? Any of the following are used
to describe men: controlling, afraid of commitment, aggressive, macho, afraid
of intimacy, violent, sexist, power hungry. Women are: strong, capable,
empowered, sensitive, nurturing, smart, caring, and the list goes on. These
answers reveal the true nature of sexism and the chasm of separation in the way
we view men from women. Anyone who does this little experiment will see the
backlash and cognitive dissonance that yields when confronted with the stark
and obvious differences. Cognitive dissonance yields to confusion and confusion
yields to irritation towards the person asking the question, even though the
answers given for both questions are from the answerer themselves. Such books
like “Women who Love too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He’ll Change”
by Robin Norwood; Susan Forward’s “Men Who Hate Women & the Women Who Love
Them”; it gets worse, “How to Make Your Man Behave in 21 Days or Less: Using
the Secrets of Professional Dog Trainers” by Karen Salmansohn; and perhaps the
most egregious of all, “Men are Pigs and Deserve to Die” by Sonya Steinem. All
these books have been runaway bestsellers all predicated on the fixed
stereotypes of men who hate and women who love. So, to answer the question from
the beginning of this paragraph, the media’s portrayal of men will impact how
wives treat their husbands. It will impact the type of attitude wives see women
taking towards men and this will impact how men are treated. I’ll give a couple
straight forward examples. Commercials and shows that depict men who act
without thinking, conveying impulsiveness and irrationality, while the women
are the calm in the storm who get their husbands back on track from their
emotional outbursts, thus conveying that women are the brains and real leader
of the family. Two good examples of this are the shows, The King of Queens,
where the overweight husband frequently has emotional outbursts as a result of
mishap, and Everybody Loves Raymond, where Raymond is constantly getting a look
of incompetency from his wife Debra who has got one of her hands on her hips
complemented with her chin tilting upward, staring at her husband in silence
from disbelief. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. Even many women will
agree that women are often times the ones who act emotionally and make
decisions based solely on emotions, not on logic and reason. Secondly, men are
portrayed as buffoons who would be lost and revert into primitive cavemen if it
weren’t for the wives; cavemen who struggle to execute the simplest of tasks.
Homer from The Simpsons is an exemplary example of this. Should women ever be
portrayed on television in the same way, there will be intolerable backlashes
targeted at the producers. But if it’s targeted towards men, women are alright
with it, no feminists complaining about that.
In
talks about men being impulsive animals, men that cheat are seen as scums of
the earth who selfishly jeopardized the family unit, did so with no thought of
how it was going to impact his family, and as additional insult, disrespected
his wife and children with his sexual addiction. Now what are the first hand
impressions people get when women cheat? Oh it’s totally different, especially
in a private forum where people are not as likely to censor their initial
reactions. “Poor her, the insensitive and inattentive bast@#$”. One of the
first things people often ask the woman is what the husband did to justify this
behavior, and trust me, it’s not asked in a tone of scrutinization of the
woman! “What did he do to drive you into the arms of another man?!” Women’s
cheating are portrayed as the husbands’ faults. Even in the case where the
husband works long and hard all day to bring money home and at the end of the
day, is too exhausted to give compliments that appease her needs to be noticed,
she cheats on him with a man that “made her feel like a real woman again”.
That’s right, the man who is exhausting himself to provide for his family is
labeled as an emotionally negligent husband, and this according to hardcore
feminists appears to justify the woman’s affair. As with hardcore feministic
viewpoints, women propping themselves to be victims when in reality cheating in
a marriage is a symptom of needs not being met as a result of failure to
communicate effectively, compromise, and make changes by both sides. Also,
let’s not forget what the public perception would be if a man got caught
cheating on his wife with a younger woman. It is automatically assumed that he
is a superficial, careless, insensitive sex maniac whose sole motivation was to
sleep with a younger woman. You rarely, ever, hear a man get asked, “What did
she do to draw you away?” It’s beyond seldom that the scrutinization of women
is what occurs after he cheats. Not if she was grossly overweight, had
developed an unappealing attitude and personality, had become verbally or
physically abusive- yes this does happen and not infrequently either as Dr.
Phil may lead you to believe-, or if she is withholding sex from him as a means
of power and control.
Now I want to tackle some of the myths and mistakes that men
make when deciding to opt into marriage. A commonly heard reason is fear based,
“I won’t die alone” or “I won’t grow old alone”. Well to address the first one,
to be precise, most of us will die alone. Whether it is in a hospital due to infection,
trauma such as from a fall, or from complications as a result of chronic
diseases, most people do not have time to sit with a sick family member all day
and night. And should you die in an short, estimated time frame because you are
showing signs of being on your last breaths, dying like that with your family
there is not really what people mean when they say they don’t want to die
alone. They want to die in peace is what they want. And to respond to the
second myth, getting married does not guarantee that you will grow old with
your partner. Marriage can end at any age, especially since people call it
quits too easily nowadays. Married people can end up alone as if they never
married, but for men, many of them have been stripped of their assets so they
may very well be in worse financial shape than had they not signed that piece
of paper. People make the mistake of assuming that unmarried individuals lead
bleak, lonely, and miserable lives. You can still continue to date and develop
meaningful relationships throughout your life, something which marriage does
not do for most couples. This is because marriage influences couples to relax,
not try as hard in the relationship, and to let themselves go due to the
apparent “security” of the relationship. Before you know it, the husband is
letting one rip right in front of his wife and she has no observable reaction
because this has become the norm. Relationships where people put their best
feet forward, where participants are consistently motivated to share and
develop emotional intimacy, and be willing to talk out difficult problems with
each other rather than turning to passive-aggressive tactics to express their
angers, are relationships that will thrive, and the “security” of marriage changes
this for the worse for many people.
For men that believe marriage means they’ll be getting
sex routinely are certainly misinformed. Many men now know that there are
plenty of sexless marriages in the USA. Many times sex becomes infrequent once
kids come into the scene. If the wives are not happy with the status of the
relationship, they may resort to alienation in the bedroom to make their point.
Exactly the type of thing women cannot get away with when not married because
they know men that aren’t at least somewhat satisfied sexually in a reasonable
time period will be looking for a way to say “it’s over”. Not many men will put
up with consistent sexless relationships. They will look elsewhere. This
problem here is solved by the honest respectable communication you get from two
adults in a relationship not based off the idea of “security”.
Men
that believe that marriage means they’ll have someone who will cook and clean
for them are downright misinformed and should be living in a different era. Modern,
Western women work now more than ever, so what’s to say she’ll respond to the
husband’s request with a response even close to “Sure thing honey!” Many of
today’s women feel household chores and traditional household duties are second
class, something they don’t do. Beautiful women tend to be, probability-wise,
like this, because they don’t have to put up with these “chores”. Beautiful
women tend to marry successful men, and successful men tend to have money. She
may demand her husband hire a cook, maid, or nanny. And if a husband asks his
wife to complete conventional “womanly” chores because she is not working, he
may be referred to as sexist and controlling even though he is carrying out the
conventional roles of bringing in money, providing for his family, and
executing tasks men tend to be stipulated to perform such as vehicle repairs
and the more grueling yard work.
None
of these reasons to get married hold up true anymore when we honestly
scrutinize them. You do need to be married to share the last name, to have the
state involved in your romantic affairs, and lose half of everything you own,
but besides these pathetic reasons, there is no reason for men to get married
anymore. Marriage is not about a lifelong commitment. It’s easily reversed. Men
need to seriously think about what they are getting themselves into when
getting married. Marriage was nothing more than a way for families to merge
properties, and pain political prestige and influence. With significant
repercussions set up for men whose marriage ends in divorce, our boys need to
stop believing in what they are being told is just done and traditional. People
need to challenge tradition. Just because our parents, grandparents, and great
grandparent’s generation did so does not mean this generation should. For women
that read this and feel angry toward these viewpoints, understand that if you
plan to have kids, and you have a son, your son’s head- figuratively of course-
is the one that is going to get chopped off in the guillotine known as the
family courts should he still choose to get married. It’s different when you
see a man standing there in the family court while you snide and think that he
deserves what’s coming to him. Yet it’s completely different when it’s your son
standing there.
The
only way for men and women to truly get equality is for both parties to
acknowledge both genders have suffered at the hands of each other. I’ve made
some points here at the defense of men’s rights but that’s not to ignore that
there are certain areas that need to change for women. I understand the horrors
of domestic violence, in fact, as this past Saturday morning, I had to call the
police because the couple next door had too many drinks and were becoming
physically belligerent to the point where it crossed my threshold for the
woman’s safety. Saying this does not negate the fact that men too are victims
of verbal and physical abuse as well. There are hundreds of studies done by Professor
John Archer at The University of Central Lancashire who analyzed a hundred
British and American studies and concluded that women are actually more likely
to initiate violence than men. He also disputes the myth that women are only
more violent as a result of self-defense. Professor Martin S. Fiebert of the California
State University Psychology Department has also conducted rigorous experiments
showing that women are as physically aggressive or more than men when in
relationships (Elam).
Hopefully
people will consider the points I’ve made here and understand holistically that
men too, can be, and in certain respects are oppressed. Perhaps you, the
reader, will come to understand that men’s rights movement is not about
oppressing women at all, and it’s true purpose is about attaining equal rights
for men. So before women who naturally assume men’s rights activists are simply
whiners, women haters, or products of bad mothers, understand with a new light
that most men’s rights activists are people who seek justice for themselves and
for their sons. For those that consider marriage to be in God’s will, we need
to teach our sons to choose carefully. To scrutinize the woman closely before
committing his life to her, to evaluate carefully her morals and values prior
to getting married. This is all the more necessary when we’ve got show after
show on television subconsciously imparting the message that women do no wrong
and men are flawed. Does this woman expect you to be financially responsible
for her? Does she have a means of supporting herself? In our ever-evolving day
and age, women that do not handle “No” to a request very well cannot be
considered for marriage by any stretch, because if she reacts like this to “no”
now, how is she going to react when she’s got leverage in the relationship as
initiated through marriage? Then again, how do we teach boys to carefully
scrutinize women when the media is telling them that they are the ones that are
flawed and need fixing? Here is where women, moms of sons, need to play their
part. It is time for moms to teach their sons that women need to be held to
scrutiny just as moms of daughters are teaching their daughters that men need
to be held up to scrutiny and accountability. It’s time for women to do this.
As always though moms of sons, it’s easy to turn a blind eye to this mirror if
it’s not somewhere you want to look, yet if the day comes where your son is
being robbed in the family courts, this mirror will rear its ugly head whether
you want to see it, or not.
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